Safety

Play hard.
Play safe.

Safety isn't the boring part. It's what lets you stop thinking and actually let go. Read it once — so the only thing on your mind later is the want.

01

Pick a safeword. Use it.

One word that ends everything — no questions, no negotiation. Agree on it before anything starts, not in the middle when nobody wants to talk.

  • Green Keep going. Good. More.
  • Yellow Ease off. Slower, lighter, or check in — but don't stop yet.
  • Red Full stop. Everything ends now. No debate, no "almost there."

Gagged or tied? Agree on a signal that needs no mouth — two taps on their skin, or a key held in the hand. Drop it, and it reads as Red.

02

What touches you should be inert.

Body-safe silicone, stainless steel, borosilicate glass — non-porous, nothing leaching into you. Skip porous, jelly, and "novelty" rubber: it traps what you can't fully clean out, and it's usually what people blame when they think they reacted to silicone. Pair silicone toys with water-based lube — silicone lube can chew up the surface.

03

Know the gear before you trust it.

01

Restraints

  • Two fingers should always slide under a cuff or rope. If they don't, it's too tight.
  • Keep safety shears within reach for anything you can't unclip in two seconds.
  • Never leave a bound partner alone — not for the door, not for a drink.
  • Tie around the meat: wrists, thighs. Stay off the throat and joints.
02

Impact

  • Land on muscle: ass, the back of the thighs. Stay off the kidneys, spine, joints, neck and face.
  • Warm up. Start light and build — cold skin bruises and splits faster.
  • Check in between rounds. A flinch isn't always a no, but find out.
03

Chastity

  • Size it right. Pinching, numbness, or a colour change means it comes off now.
  • Clean the skin daily, under and around. Trapped moisture is the real enemy.
  • Build wear time up. Days, not a first-night marathon.
04

Machines

  • Anchor it before you switch it on. Suction to a hard, clean surface; weight it if it walks.
  • Start slow and low, then work the speed up — a 3-inch stroke moves fast.
  • Body-safe attachments, water-based lube, wiped down after. Give the motor breaks on long runs.
04

The comedown is part of it.

Hard play drops you hard when it ends — body and head both. Water, warmth, skin, a few quiet minutes before the world comes back. Check in with whoever you played with. Check in with yourself.

Read: aftercare →

Numbness. Sharp pain. Can't breathe right. Panic.

Stop means stop — every time, the first time. No scene is worth the ER. Untie first, talk after.

This is practical guidance, not medical advice. If you've got a condition that play could touch — circulation, heart, joints, anything — talk to someone qualified first.